The Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival has been created to provide both Migraine and headache disorder patients and people who blog about them with opportunities to share ideas on topics of particular interest and importance to us.
This month's theme is centered around things that frustrate you living with Migraine disease and headache disorders. There are wonderful, different blogs about Migraines, headache and frustration. When you get a minute, check out this months Headache & Migraine Disease Blog Carnival at Somebodyhealme.com.
What I find very frustrating is the lack of compassion and understanding some people can display towards those of us living with Migraine disease and headache disorders. If one's never had a Migraine attack or suffered with any amount of chronic pain, they can’t possibly be aware of what we go through on a daily basis.
I’m sure this goes to the whole invisible illness stigma. If others can’t see your pain, then it isn’t there. No, you cannot see Migraine disease and headache disorders - but trust us - they are real, painful and can disrupt your life in a heartbeat. Just because you cannot see my pain doesn’t mean I’m not living with it.
So, if someone you know has Migraines and/or headaches please show them some compassion and understanding. Telling us to “just take an aspirin and get over it” doesn’t cut it anymore, because if we could, don’t you think we would! This doesn’t work coming from family, friends and certainly not from doctors. Saying “it is all in your head” doesn’t work anymore either. When we have to say “no thank you” to another party, or we can’t help you with your apartment move or whatever it is, we aren’t happy. Most of us would like very much to be there for you, and don’t relish in staying home, yet again, in pain.
Compassion, understanding and a little empathy would go a long, long way.
Thanks for reading and feel well,
© Nancy Harris Bonk, 2011.Last updated April 8, 2011.